Love or Friendship.. How to Know?

Many people have girl friends. But among those who are close with girls, nearly 90% of the boys stay in confusion — is it just friendship or is it love? This doubt keeps troubling their mind.

If they dare to say “I love you,” there’s a fear that the friendship might break. On the other hand, hiding love in the heart and acting like just a friend is even harder. This is not only for boys — girls too experience such feelings quite often.

So, how can one know whether it is love or just friendship? Psychologists suggest a few signs. By carefully observing certain behaviors, one can understand the other person’s feelings.

For example, if your friend is always casual with you — she doesn’t try to look extra attractive in front of you, always wears simple clothes, avoids much makeup — it means she isn’t trying to impress you. So, she probably doesn’t see you in a romantic way.

If your girlfriend calls you only by your name, never gives you nicknames, and sometimes even calls you “bro,” then it’s clear — she considers you only as a friend. At least for now, she doesn’t have romantic feelings for you.

Another case — if she freely talks to you about her office colleagues, or about the boy next door, then again it means she sees you only as a friend. If she truly had romantic feelings for you, she wouldn’t discuss other guys with you.

Similarly, if she discusses her past crushes or ex-boyfriend with you, the meaning is almost the same. Also, if she prefers meeting you along with other friends rather than alone, you should understand her stand. For instance, when you ask her for a movie, if her first question is “Who else is coming?”, then it’s clear. But if she says things like, “Will you pick me up?”, “Did you take tickets just for the two of us?”, “Shall we go to a restaurant after the movie?”, — then it’s a strong sign your love is blossoming.

Experts say, through such small situations and signals, boys can figure out where they stand in a girl’s heart. Instead of living in fantasies, if one looks at things practically, it becomes easier to know whether she sees you as just a friend or more.